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You Know You're An Adoptive Family When...

  • your child's new therapist scares the snot out of her... and you love him for it, and know you've finally found the right guy.
  • you daydream about how to add rooms or re-partition space in your small home to make room for more children.
  • for that matter, you wonder if there's someone who could retro-fit your van with another bench seat instead of the 2 seperate ones in the middle row, to make room for just one more child...
  • you have to remind yourself to let out of town friends and family members know how many kids you currently have, in case they missed a coming or a going.
  • you have to explain why the birthparents they love aren't on their "Safe-Side Adults" list.
  • you overhear your newest children talking in the bathroom, debating about whether they like this home better, or a previous one.
  • you tell your son he's your favorite black-haired 8 year old (since you also have a blonde 8-year old), and he replies with "And you're ONE OF my favorite moms."
  • your children see an advertisement with a baby in it and ask if we can "get that one."
  • your children ask to "keep" the babysitter.

Foster & Adoptive Placements

  • **K (3 days old)
    Picked up from the hospital 10/1/10, not sure how long she'll be here, but we're enjoying her!
  • **Gideon (7) and Malaika (5)
    Placed July 13, 2009 for adoption. A relative came forward and they were removed from our home Sept 26, 2009. Returned April 18, 2010. Adoption Finalized September 20, 2010!
  • L (11 days old)
    September 15-16, 2010 (2 days)
  • S (3 1/2)
    January 2010 (2 days)
  • C (6 months)
    December 2nd-23rd, 2009. (3 weeks)
  • C (8) & J (5)
    March 20th-22nd, 2009. (3 days.)
  • T (2) and A (13 months)
    February 2009 (3 days) Update: adopted by a family in Eastern Washington
  • R (1-2)
    February 4, 2009 - February 17, 2010. (1 year). Native child - tribe wouldn't allow adoption. Moved to a long-term foster home.
  • S (age 10)
    New Year's Eve 2008 (6 days) Update: being adopted by a co-worker of Brian's!
  • J (6) & S (2.5)
    December 2008 (6 days)
  • **Hallie (3 weeks)
    Placed August 2003 - Adoption Finalized December 2004
  • **Sam (13 months)
    Placed August 2002 - Finalized Adoption May 2003
  • J (7) & F (18 mo)
    Father's Day Weekend 2002 (4 days)

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01/05/2010

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Melissa

Wow, they are so super cute in this one! OK, question for you... How are things going with Hallie and the ODD-- did you ever get a second opinion with evaluations?

Steph :o)

Two questions: When is your next court date with Nat? How is it going with the lice mess? Praying you have better luck than I did when we had it here.

Renee

Been here from day one...and before that when I found a random post ABOUT ME on your old blog...you'd never mentioned you had a blog and when I stumbled across it, that day's post was about our family. Weird. Question: Do you have a recommendation for a great photographer? I've noticed your wonderful photo on your side bar, and am having a baby in 2010 :)

Marty

Have you struggled at all with attachment issues with your foster or adopted kids?

Eliza

Congratulations, Hilary!
What I would like to know, if it is not too personal, is, do you think a child could be so different from you that it could not thrive in your family? Or do you believe love could always overcome these differences? What makes me ask is that as a child, I was rather different from other children, but thankfully I had a family, where I felt like I belonged, and there were other people like me. I would really like to hear about your experiences in this area :)

anya

Love reading your blog. I think I originally found it linked to Bakers Dozen, which I found linked while reading another adoption blog. I have been encouraged over the past few years with your experiences as a mom and homemaker.
So...what is your favorite 'go to' meal on those un-inspiring nights?
Also- how are you so darn creative with celebrating little holidays? I will never get over your spread for your hubby for last years super bowl. Seriously impressive!!

Carolynn Slocum

I love reading your blog. You inspire me to be more fun and more creative. I wish I was as good as a crafter as you are! I really mean that I am not just trying to suck up.
I appreciated your comment to yell less, my question (because I want to yell less too) is how do you plan to follow through with that?

Debbie

Congrats! I don't always comment but I read your blog faithfully.
Question...how are you enjoying being in your little bedroom. I was amazed when you guys build that.

Chantel M

I too read your blog faithfully and have loved reading your journey through fostering and adopting.

In the midst of life, how do you keep your marriage strong?

Kristie Hubbard

Carolynn~ Too bad they don't make mom bracelets that are sensitive to the sound of your voice...so that when you start to yell...it zaps you! Haha. It might just be a best seller. :)

Hilary~ I'm impressed with how you are able to keep track of the grocery deals each week. My question is how do you keep record of your kids school work? Do you keep examples of their work for each grade? Do you have a system?

Blessings, Kristie

jess

You inspire me with your mothering and your fun ideas and how you seem to find time to do so many crafty domestic things! And you always keep it real. That's probably what I like best! My question is....how often and how do you go about doing your meal planning? Do you have a masterlist or do you go by what sounds good and go from there? Or is always just whatever is on sale?

rebecca m

Okay, here's my question: What are some ways your church/friends/family could do to support you and your husband as foster/adoptive(?) parents?

We aren't currently looking to adopt or foster but I would so love to help those who are.


And I l o v e Lindor Truffles!

Shay Brewer

I have been reading you for a little over a year now. I don't comment often. Or to be honest I may not have commented at all.

I was wondering how things were going with the adoption of Nat?

Also your pajama pants... do you use a pattern? I have just ventured into the arena of sewing and was curious if you had some tips for me.

Thanks!
*Shay B*

Jessica in Michigan

Love the blog! I discovered you a few months ago, and have been checking in daily since. I get a lot of creative ideas to help me with the nursery and youth group at my church, thanks! The question I have for you is this, did your husband ever live in the Grand Rapids Michigan area? I seen a picture you posted and believe that I new him when he lived here, if he is the same Brian that I knew that is!

Angie

I love reading your blog and following the journey of your family. My question is have you always wanted to adopt or was it a result of a combination of life circumstances?

Merriann

Happy blogiversary! My question...I know a while back you were clearing out the school house to reclaim it for school. Were you able to move back in there?

Rebecca

My question is - even with all the pain, do you ever wish you hadn't signed up for fostering?

Happy anniversary!

Kylie

Congrats on 3 years!! I found your blog through Bakers Dozen. I can't think of a question right now. My 3 year old foster child is on a screaming jag and making it hard to think.

Michelle

I think I found your blog through A Baker's Dozen, and have been reading for about a year now. I have a pretty simple question- how did you pick Hallie and Sam's names?

Karen Butner

I found your blog through the Baker's Dozen and have enjoyed following. You've gotten us very interested in adopting through the foster care program. My question- are you signed up to provide care to any foster child sent to you, or only those with the chance of adoption? I'm not sure we could handle the "reunification" process.
Blessings,
Karen
Mama to 7 blessings

Kimberley Ernst


Congrats! I actually want to say that I admire what and how you do it. Your children are happy, and healthy DESPITE the lice :) I thought that being a teacher and a mom and wife was hard. You are all 3 with no seperataion. I have always wanted to adopt and am facinated at how you manage it all. Why did you decide to be adoptive and foster parents?
Kim

Carrie R

I know I am late, but that's ok...I am seconding or thirding the question about your menu. I am just now getting back to being domestic after almost a year off due to circumstances beyond my control (at least for some of the time), and have realized that if I make a menu, I do better at making the meals vs having (my)Brian pick something up on his way home. I'm curious to know if you plan a month or a week or what and how often do you grocery shop. Thanks.

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