Finally I got ahold of the social worker, so we know a bit more about why baby K is in our home. The initial info we got was a bit off, it seems. Nothing I can share, of course, but it gives us more insight into K's needs and whether she'll be with us longer... and I'm not thinking she's leaving any too soon. Birthparents no-showed for a visit this week (then claimed they didn't know there was one, even though we had discussed it at length not 24 hours before.)
But, even if that sounds "good" for the possibility of keeping her... it sounds like there's a line ahead of us: a few relatives, plus the adoptive family of an older sibling who would also want her. Does the foster family who has put in the work and bonded with her get any priority? The others are all out of the area, so she's with us to facilitate birthparent visits... but I'm not sure how that jives with "relatives get first priority" and all that... does that just mean for permanency? So the foster family does the myriad of appointments, gets up every night with her and handles the demands of a newborn, only to hand her over when she starts smiling, laughing and sleeping through the night? I have no idea. After the last year or so, I won't try to predict anything.
But... she's growing wonderfully (a full pound up from her birth weight now, at 1 month old), healthy (other than a short cold earlier this week), and is becoming more and more alert. Sleep is still unpredictable. She gave us 2 bursts of 5 hours the night before last, but then just when I was getting my hopes up, she was up every 2-3 hours again last night. She does have a sad little diaper rash that we are trying to fight off, and no doubt that contributes to the sleep disturbances.
I'm trying to project toward Christmas... I've bought the main gifts (and several stocking stuffers) for the other members of my household, but I'm not sure what to do about K. Will she still be here at Christmas? Yes, I know she'll only be 3 months old and will absolutely not notice if she has gifts, but it would bother me if she didn't, so I'm collecting a few small items for her stocking, with the thought that they can be saved for baby gifts for others if she leaves us before then. (Remember C left us last year on December 23rd! I do have a couple small things I had purchased for her that I can tuck in K's stocking, as well. There's just no definites when it comes to foster care.)
Maybe when she leaves we need to tell our agency we'll wait for what we asked for 9 years ago (when God brought us Sam)... under 18 months and likely adoptable. Or maybe we need to figure out how to make a homemade one. Of course now I'd be "Advanced Maternal Age." Blah.


